The same arguments, again and again
Different topics, but the same feeling. You lose each other in the way the conversation unfolds.
INCLUSIVE · OPEN-MINDED · NON-JUDGEMENTAL
Stuck in arguments, silence, blame, distance or a loss of sexual intimacy? In couples therapy, we explore what’s happening, what lies underneath it, and how you can gradually build more safety, honesty and connection.
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One of the few coaches in the Netherlands who offers couples therapy in both Dutch and English, for all types of relationships, specializing in recovery from infidelity.
60 MINUTES, FREE AND WITHOUT OBLIGATION
A free call is a gentle first step. You don’t have to decide anything yet.
60 minutes, free and without obligation
For individuals, couples and diverse relationship styles.
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No obligation after the call
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THE PROBLEM I HELP SOLVE
Maybe you talk a lot, but don’t feel any closer. Or you say less and less, because every conversation hurts all over again. You want freedom, but not at the cost of safety. Whatever your relationship form, the patterns are recognisable.
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
I help people who feel stuck in love break destructive patterns and rediscover clarity, safety, desire and connection, in whatever relationship form fits them.
Different topics, but the same feeling. You lose each other in the way the conversation unfolds.
Less is shared, less is touched, less is said out loud. The connection feels more fragile.
Trust has been damaged.
Couples therapy after infidelity →
Touch, sex, playfulness or desire feel under pressure, and you don’t know how to open up that conversation.
Freedom and safety collide. Boundaries, agreements and desires need clarity.
Stay, leave, repair or choose each other again. You don’t need to be sure yet to begin.
DEFINITION
Couples therapy offers guidance for people who want to understand why love gets stuck, and how they can relate differently to themselves and each other. Not to point to one person as the problem, but to make the pattern visible.
Good couples therapy not only helps you communicate better, but also listen differently, respond differently, and choose anew how love, boundaries, and connection can take shape.
Relationship coaching is practical and future-focused: what do you want to do and choose differently? Couples therapy also looks at the deeper layer: old pain, beliefs, attachment patterns and trauma.
In my work, I combine both: practical enough to create real change, deep enough not to stay on the surface.
MY MOTTO
My motto is ‘Long-term Love with Joy in Freedom’. This means love can stay alive, with truth, desire and space for who you are.
In my work, it’s not about going back to how things used to be. It’s about discovering what kind of love feels right now.
Read more about Christine and her background on the About Me page.
Individuals
Couples
Open relationships
Polyamory
Living Apart Together relationships
Expats & internationals
Helps you understand what makes a relationship strong: friendship, safety, and breaking conflict patterns without damaging connection. Includes specialist support for recovery after infidelity.
Level 1 & 2 certified
Trauma
Infidelity
Agression
Desire, freedom, honesty, and the tension every long-term relationship knows.
Annual workshops since 2019
Making automatic patterns and beliefs visible, so you can consciously do something different with them.
Practitioner & Master certified
For impactful experiences that continue to affect your love life.
Certified 2023
WITHOUT PRESSURE, BUT HONEST
Most people wait years before asking for help. In the meantime, patterns become more deeply ingrained and the distance grows.
Most people wait years before asking for help. In the meantime, patterns become more deeply ingrained and the distance grows.
Sometimes it resolves itself. But more often, arguments become harsher, silences longer and touch more rare. A free discovery call commits you to nothing. It helps you stop carrying the question of whether support is right for you on your own.
Research shows that most couples wait an average of six years before seeking couples therapy. During that time, patterns can become so deeply ingrained that repair takes more time.
THE ROUTE
Not endless talking about what’s going wrong, but practising what can be different.
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In 60 minutes, we explore what’s going on and whether my way of working is the right fit. You don’t need to know yet where this will lead.
2
We don’t just look at the content of the argument, but at the movement that keeps happening again and again.
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We explore desires, fears, boundaries and old pain that affect the connection.
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You learn to speak, listen, pause and respond differently, so contact becomes safer and more honest.
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We work on repair, desire, closeness and honest choices about the future.
Intensive support
Inclusive does not mean vague. You are welcome with your form of love, as long as there is a willingness to look honestly.
Individuals with recurring patterns in love.
Heterosexual and same-sex couples who feel stuck in communication, sexual intimacy or trust.
People in open relationships, polyamory, LAT relationships or other relationship forms.
Relationships with more than two partners.
Couples after infidelity or impactful life events.
International couples looking for support in English.
Situations involving active threat, violence or acute unsafety.
When someone only comes to make the other person change.
When there is no willingness to look at your own part.
This distinction is not about rejecting you, but about being honest about when my support can truly contribute.
Experiences
"We were in the middle of a relationship storm, with old and new pain piling up between us."
Couple, 30+
"She creates a safe, honest space where you can truly grow."
Woman 30+
"She guided us through this difficult period without us losing each other."
Couple 30+
NO OBLIGATION · 60 MINUTES · FREE
Whether you come as an individual, a couple or in any other relationship form: you don’t have to decide anything yet. You just need to be willing to look honestly at what’s going on.
Choose a time →FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Yes. The discovery call lasts 60 minutes by phone or WhatsApp, and is completely free and without obligation. There is no commitment to start a programme afterwards.
Yes. I work with individuals, couples and people in diverse relationship forms. You don’t need to come with your partner.
Yes. My support is open to all relationship forms. I don’t judge the shape of your relationship.
During the free discovery call, we discuss which programme best fits your situation and what it costs. Most programmes consist of four to fifteen sessions, depending on your situation and pace. You’ll receive the rates after the discovery call.
In the Netherlands, couples therapy and relationship coaching are generally not reimbursed through basic health insurance. Sometimes an additional insurance package may cover part of the costs. Please check this with your insurer. During the discovery call, we can discuss the options.
Doubt is normal. A free 60-minute discovery call gives you space to explore, without pressure, whether support feels right. You won’t be committed to anything afterwards.
Yes, provided there is a willingness to be honest and work towards repair. I completed the Treating Affairs and Trauma specialist training at The Gottman Institute. This means I am specifically trained to support people through the impact of infidelity on trust, connection and the repair process.
No. Sometimes couples therapy helps couples reconcile, sometimes it helps them make an honest decision, and sometimes it helps them part ways respectfully. All three outcomes can be positive.
Yes. I regularly work with international clients and offer support in English.
Whether you’re looking for support as an individual, a couple or in another relationship form, a free discovery call is a calm first step to explore whether this is the right kind of help for you.
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